Domestic violence is violence by someone who has a close personal relationship or emotional bond with the person they are abusing.

The types of relationships include couples, partners living apart, parent and child, siblings, or flatmates.
Domestic Violence happens in same sex relationships at around the same rate as it does in heterosexual relationships.

Domestic violence is not always obvious black eyes and bruises. The tactics used might be invisible to someone outside the family, the behaviour might seem trivial or random, but together the tactics have the effect of manipulating and controlling, making the person being abused feel fearful.

Domestic Violence may be physical abuse, sexual abuse, psychological abuse or financial control.

For broader detail see the Duluth Power and Control Wheel below.

Domestic Violence NZ

It can be a single act of violence but is usually a pattern of behaviours over a period of time aimed at controlling you.

Warning Signs for Domestic Violence.

These are often the beginning signs of the control.
It only ever gets worse from here.

– Phones or texts you excessively to see where you are and what you are doing.

– Questions who is texting or calling you and gets angry or upset if you do not answer.

– Criticises your friends and discourages you from seeing them.

– Makes light of your concerns about his/her behaviour and blames you for it.

– Gets jealous of your relationships with others, including family.

– Makes you leave social and other events when you are out together, not allowing you to stay without him/her.

For more information or advice on Warning Signs, please contact our Crisis and Support Line or complete a Contact Form on our contact page.